It’s been far too long since we got together “Team E” – as we have begun to call my daughter Emily and a friend of ours, Elizabeth, along with her husband Brian. But it isn’t a party without our neighbors Andy and Blake, so they came over too.
We just had to introduce these two couples to their first pierogi making experience!
We played some music, shared some beers (Crème Brulee stout and also Boulevard…mmm), laid down some flour and got to work stuffing the dough full of meat, onion, tater tots and cheddar cheese before deep-frying them.
Thankfully, Brian and Elizabeth brought some salad so that our arteries didn’t harden on the spot.
They also brought pecan pie and ice cream and these amazing coconut macaroons. At that point there was absolute silence around the table, punctuated by the occasional “mmmm” and corresponding eyeballs rolling into the back of the head.
But more than the great company, was the benefit to our daughter Emily. She adores Brian and Elizabeth, as well as Andy and Blake, and had insisted we have them all over for dinner. I can remember enjoying the company of adults as well as a child growing up. I enjoyed listening to their stories and interacting with them and it is wonderful to see my 7-year-old daughter making her own relationships and interactions with other adults.
Not a single visiting adult left without a unique face painting done…all on their hands instead of faces…
She was out of the room at one point and the subject turned to her. Andy said, “If I knew for sure I would get a child like that, I would become one in a heartbeat.”
And I think it was Brian who said, “She doesn’t act like a child, but like a real person.” And while that might sound odd, I think I really do get what he was saying.
Children don’t need to be treated like children, but like the adults in which they will become. My dad once said to me, “I wasn’t raising a child, I was raising an adult.” And while I do not treat her as an adult, I do try to keep that in mind at all times, an image of who she will be as an adult, and how someone becomes that over time.
“Because I said so” is not a go to phrase around here. I explain WHY I want something done, and Emily has sometimes challenged it with her own thoughts and reasoning. Give me a good enough reason why you want to do it a different way and I will often change my attitude or expectations.