Last night we fixed steaks, shrimp and sauteed mushrooms for dinner and enjoyed a movie and family time.
Because that’s how we celebrate Valentine’s Day around here apparently!
I had wanted to see The Arrival since before it hit the theaters, but life got in the way. And for the inexpensive price of $1.63, we got it from Redbox, popped it into the DVD player and sat back.
If you haven’t seen the movie, I will not give away any spoilers. Suffice it to say that it dwells on not just aliens, but the very real reality of death.
This morning I woke Em early. The home health nurse was on her way and Em needed a bath. Later, after the nurse was gone and we had both eaten breakfast I set her the task of reviewing her spelling words while I vacuumed upstairs.
We ended up doing her spelling list there in her bedroom and afterwards we got in a cuddle we hadn’t had time for earlier. Em has finally stopped asking to sleep in our bed, but she does love cuddling with me first thing in the morning or right before bedtime.
As we lay there I found myself thinking of the movie. I told Em, “If I am very lucky, you will live a long, long time after I die. And I hope that you do. I hope that you have a long life, full of love and happiness and children and even grandchildren and great-grandchildren.”
Em said, “Well, if I don’t, then I hope I die soon after you.” She paused, “I want to believe that there is a pit stop, where we go after we die, but before we go into another body and another life. If there is, will you wait for me there? So I can see you again?”
“You got it, kiddo. I’ll wait there, just for you.”
“I hope I am there when you die, Mama, so you aren’t alone.”
“Me too, baby. I can’t think of anything I would want more.”
She started to cry.
“Death is scary, isn’t it?” I asked her.
“Well, it gets a little easier the older you get. It was super-scary when I was a kid. Now it isn’t quite as scary. We all die some day. That is a reality for each and every one of us.”
She snuggled closer.
“The important thing, the MOST important thing is to live your life WELL. Be kind, love others, make them laugh and smile and feel amazing. Learn lots of cool stuff. Enjoy your life.” We snuggled close, “Life is too short. Choose well.”